Often times what women say and what they do are completely opposite things.
Most men think women actually do this consciously like they are in some kind of conspiracy.
But actually they are not. In reality they don’t know what they really want or do. They are not even aware of their own behaviors. Women are not even aware of their own urges. They are very emotional beings.
When men say women about their nature, women get really angry and triggered. But after then, they do exactly the things that men mentioned already.
If you say to a woman that they have dual mating strategy and they desire some men sexually and they are attracted to some men emotionally and they use them for emotional stability and resources or if you tell them looks are more important than personality women will get really mad and blame you for your lack of understanding.
But then they commit dual mating or go after good looking jerks and follow the same routines.
Because human urges and emotions are not tied to logic.
Women can say “i don’t understand why people cheat i would never cheat on my partner.” But then they can cheat on their boyfriends or husbands many times.
Because lust has no logic. Sexual attraction is not something you do purposely.
It happens naturally in the moment.
When women flirt and interact with handsome, sexually attractive men in enough time, they feel intense lust, they get horny, they feel the need to have sex with them in a short time.
Because they are hardwired to get quality genes from attractive men as soon as possible whenever the opportunity arrives. Instinctively they don’t want to miss their chance. They can fly across the country, they can do a lot of crazy things just to be with them.
Therefore what women say and what they actually do oftentimes are totally different things.
You can see this even in scientific studies. In one study women claimed that they don’t care about looks much about their partners but after study it has been revealed that women care about looks even more than men especially when it comes to sexual attraction.
This is a good example. It’s not like they lie, women just don’t know. They are not aware oftentimes. Or if they are aware then they say it to not look shallow. They are afraid of being judged about it.
They can say “i don’t do hookup” but then do it on the same day with an attractive man that they even barely know. They might say “i want a nice, loving partner” but then friendzone that kind of guy instantly. They can say “i would never cheat” and then do it instantly when they have the opportunity. They can say “i don’t want men to approach me” and then complain about how men don’t approach them.
Women say these things to not look shallow. They afraid of judgement of society. Therefore they are virtue signalling all the time. Also their feelings change all the time.
And many times they don’t even know what they really want they always follow their feelings.
That’s why you will never hear the truth from women’s mouth. They will always play passive and subtle. They will never reveal their true intentions and how they truly feel.
Women always take action based on how they feel at that moment. And often times they are not honest and direct about their feelings.
Feelings drive women’s behaviors. Women always follow their feelings and urges. And therefore how they feel now will be different than how they will feel tomorrow.
When women choose men based on looks they might say some false things about why they chose him so they don’t end up looking shallow. When they find the guy attractive physically they can find some little things about his personality or his style to say people that they chose him because of his style or personality even though they chose based on his looks.
When women say “i don’t care about looks” or “i find average looking guys more attractive” or “i need just more than looks to be impressed” etc. women don’t say these to speak the truth. They try to mean completely something else. They actually try to look good or virtuous. They try to look “different”. They actually mean “i’m not an ordinary girl.”
And most importantly, women are not honest because they are afraid of men’s judgement and wrath. They don’t want to reject men harshly and they don’t want to hurt their emotions too much because they are afraid of conflict. That’s why they always act sneaky and subtle. Therefore a lot of times they don’t reveal how they actually feel. That’s why they will never say to a man “i didn’t like how you look” or “you are unattractive”. Instead they will say “i have a boyfriend”, “it’s not you it’s me” or “you are a great guy but i look for something else.”
Women very rarely speak openly and literally. Oftentimes they play their game secretly and indirectly. They are not honest, direct or clear about the things that they say most of the time or even if they are honest they can change their minds quickly. Because they always follow their feelings. They are always virtue signalling to not look shallow and avoid of judgement of men. But in reality they are not that much different than men are. They are horny, promiscious and highly sexual beings too and they highly care about looks too.
What women say consciously is totally different than what they really want and do subconsciously. Because as i said they don’t even aware of their own nature most of the time. And they will never be honest about themselves because they care about their reputation. They are highly afraid of social judgement. They always try to look more than they already are.
Therefore asking women about dating advice or asking them about their desires and urges, asking them about their sexuality aren’t going to get you anywhere. It will not give you clear picture about women and their behaviors.
They either will lie or give you half answers. You can not learn the truth about women by asking women about themselves. What they want, who they desire, why they do what they do, they either don’t know or they just lie to protect their self-image.
Women are evolved to be manipulative. This is not an insult, it is just what it is. Therefore they don’t speak literally, they don’t use words like men. They are not direct often times. They are not clear about their emotions.
They use words indirectly, they say one thing but they actually mean something else.
Or they say things to not say the truth, they say it just to get some attention, to look cool and virtuous or just for no reason.
This is just classical female behavior.
Therefore if you want to understand about women and understand their desires, if you want to understand what women actually want then you have to look at their actions. You have to look at their behaviors.
Because they reveal their true intentions.
Women can act prude and virtuous, they might say “i never do hookup” or or “i don’t like sex” or “i’m not that much sexual” but then they can act very sexual and kinky and cheat on their partners.
Therefore never listen or take literally what women say. Their words very rarely reveal their true desires and feelings.