If you ask me what is the most deepest need of all women have i would say it’s this; it’s the need to be desired and wanted.
Women live for this. Sometimes they even use sex to feel these feelings. Women live for these feelings.
As we mentioned before here and here women have dual mating strategy. They want to get the best quality genes in order to make healthy and strong offspring also they want to get commitment and resources to take care of their offspring.
But this is just their strategy and in order to make their strategy work they have to be desirable, they have to be sexy and pretty, they have to be worthy for male attention. They have to be wanted and desired, all the time.
Women only have one weapon against men and it’s their beauty.
Throughout the all history, women were completely dependent on men to live. In order to survive and reproduce successfully they needed men like they need air to breathe. They couldn’t do it without men.
And they had to be desirable, they had to get attention all the time to attract quality men and make those men to take care of them or impregnate them. And this is how women are wired.
Women crave male attention and validation constantly. They need to feel desired, wanted and loved all the time. Therefore men (especially attractive men) have incredible influence over women. Men control which women will get the attention and validation that they crave.
That’s why women put make up on their faces, that’s why they wear revealing, sexy clothes. They want to get attention and validation. They want quality, attractive men to desire them and want them and approach them. Even though they say “we wear sexy clothes to feel good” or “we do it for other women” but the truth is oftentimes they do it for attractive men. Women say things like this because they don’t want to give wrong signals to unattractive, low quality men. But on the other hand they die for attractive men’s attention and validation.
That’s why women are afraid of rejection on extreme levels and react way more excessively than men do because for women, getting rejection means they are not worthy enough to live and survive in this world. That means they will be left behind. That means death.
That’s why women don’t tend to approach men and don’t initiate even though they desire and want the guy really bad. (But they will create opportunities and act very open and willing for him to approach.)
They want men to do it because they want to feel wanted, they don’t want to be ignored and rejected. That crashes their soul. That makes them highly insecure, angry and depressed.
As i mentioned before, women are very sexual beings actually.
But this doesn’t mean that they aggressively approach or chase attractive men and convince them to have sex with them.
Sometimes they do but generally women’s sexual aggressiveness little bit more passive and responsive than men’s is.
They chase men and sex indirectly and in a more subtle way. They throw themselves out there, they wear sexy, revealing clothes and then they try to get attention from men who they find attractive and sexy. (If they get it from unattractive men they get mad and sad.)
Women don’t want attention from all men. They don’t want to be desired and wanted by any man. They want attention from quality, attractive men that they want.
They want to be wanted and desired by them. They want to be chased by them. They want only those men to approach them. They want to be taken. They want to feel little bit special.
They want men to initiate and show how much they really want them.
Women don’t want handsome, attractive men to be timid, shy and passive or overly nice. They want them to show their true desires and be sexually aggressive, they want them to be flirtatious. They want them to make women feel desired. That’s why oftentimes bad boys make women really aroused because they act courageous, they show their intentions and make women feel really desired and wanted.
The reason of women crave to feel desired on great amounts, because after sex women have the risk to get pregnant and instinctively they seek out commitment. Therefore women don’t want to convince and chase attractive men to have sex with them. They want to be with the ones who make them feel desired and wanted.
This is just female nature. They can’t separate sex from emotions completely.
Men’s sexual desire is very mechanical. It’s purely physical and it’s very direct. But women’s is beside being physical it is also little bit emotional and responsive.
When women flirt with an attractive man and when that man shows his desire women can’t help themselves.
They get aroused, they feel the need to have sex with him in a short time. They think about him all the time. They get addicted to that feeling of being wanted. The desire to be desired is so ingrained in them.
It’s just their core nature.