Men or women we all horny creatures.
Although generally men have little bit higher sex drive than women. A lot of studies support this.
Of course women feel lust, horniness and sexual cravings just like men, they are human after all. They have sex drives and strong urge to reproduce like any living being. But oftentimes they tend to approach sex little bit emotionally rather than just purely physically.
What men don’t understand is, women have very intense emotional needs that most men don’t even aware of.
Reason of this, is because women couldn’t live on their own for a long, very long periods of time. The world was a very dangerous and wild place and women were completely dependent on men all the time to survive and raise their children.
That made women very insecure and needy for a man. That made women crave to be desired and loved on extreme levels in order to feel secure and live a normal life. Because that was their only way. They survived by being worthy enough to get attention, validation and love from men.
Therefore; women seek to feel desired, wanted and loved like men seek sex.
Women crave attention and validation like men crave sex all the time.
Therefore oftentimes men chase sex for their physical needs. Mostly for lust, pleasure and physical relief.
On the other hand when women chase sex, beside their physical needs they chase it for their emotional needs. They want to feel wanted, they want to feel desired. They want to feel loved. They want to feel worthy. They highly crave affection and attention.
They want to be the center of attention, they want to be craved by a man especially by an attractive man. Women have intense urge to fulfill those feelings, they live for these feelings and they are highly likely to fulfill those through sex.
Because they know men love sex and they desire sexy women. They give attention to those women. Therefore women want to be desirable and look sexy so they can get attention, validation and love from men and that way they can feel desired, wanted and worthy.
Because women think if men love sex and if i give them sex then men will love me and give me a lot of attention and affection. And that way i will be safe and secure.
Women don’t think this consciously of course it happens mostly subconsciously.
They just follow their feelings. They have strong need to fulfill their feelings.
Women have a very intense need in them to be genuinely desired and loved. That’s what women are in their core. They are beings who live for male attention all their life. Because as i said that’s how they survived.
So most of the time sex means getting attention, sex means validation, sex means being desired and loved, it means worthiness to women.
A lot of times when women go out they don’t actually seek sex just for sex like men do. It’s not completely mechanical thing for them. Men want sex just for sex almost with any decent looking woman just to fulfill their physical urges.
But when women seek out sex, beside fulfilling their physical needs they crave to fulfill their emotional needs. When women go out they actually chase the feeling of being desired and wanted, they chase attention and validation, they chase love. They chase affection. And they know one of the best ways to get those from men is through sex. (But sometimes it can backfire on them and at the end they might feel used and not fulfilled emotionally.)
Because they think that’s how men show their desire and give them attention.
When an attractive man desires a woman and gives her the attention she craves; she feels special, she feels desired. She feels worthy, she feels validated and she gets aroused.
If you think about it, getting sex isn’t that hard for women therefore there is no much purpose for them to chase sex just for sex. But women crave to be desired so much, they crave attention so much especially by an attractive man that they give sex in return for attention and validation.
Also note that women get pregnant and invest a lot of resources to raise children therefore they instinctively want to be with a man who really interested in them, who really want them so women can increase their chance of getting commitment from that man and making him more likely to stay around. That’s why even they crave sex really bad, even they need it at the moment still they don’t want to have sex with men who are not really into them or desire them much. They don’t want to reward someone who doesn’t show a lot of interest. Unlike men, women don’t want to be with just anyone. They want to be with attractive men who show enough amount of desire and give a lot of attention to them.
That’s why women want men to initiate, do the chase because that’s how they truly feel desired and wanted. That’s why women hate and afraid of rejection on extreme levels.
That way women feel special because a man desires them so much that they even conquer their fears for them.
Sometimes women use sex to make certain guy commit or they do it to make their man stay in relationship and love them more or they just do it because sex brings them closer and make their bond stronger.
Or when women feel ugly, unworthy, insecure or alone and if they don’t get much attention they might use sex to feel secure and worthy again.
You have to understand that women need male attention and validation constantly, all the time, every single day. Like men have urge to have sex all the time, women have urge to get male attention and validation all the time.
Therefore some women especially women who didn’t get much attention and love from their parents might try to get from other men by seeking lots of sex.
Or sometimes if a woman competes with a lot of women to be desired and get attention by a certain man she may give him sex just to get his attention and be the one that gets him and make other women jealous.
Women do almost anything to fulfill their emotions. Sex is no different. Remember, women have a big emotional void in them by default.
So women may do most crazy things, they may act very odd and wild just to get male attention and validation. Just to feel desired and loved for a moment.
Feelings are women’s motivators. They drive them.
Therefore most of the time even they feel horny and crave physical relief still they can use sex because of emotional reasons or to make a man commit them.
Well having said that, of course sometimes women seek sex just for physical fulfillment, out of horniness, for lust and pleasure like men do.
This happens especially when they are ovulating. In that time their hormones force them strongly to seek sex therefore they become really horny.
Because in that time their whole body urgently seek quality sperm for their one egg before it’s too late and they crave sex more than in their normal times.
And second, they can feel intense physical urge and horniness or lust when they interact and flirt with a sexually attractive man. Because their urges will be triggered externally at that point. They will get stimulated and desire to have sex with him in a short time.
(Women are wired to mate quickly with sexually attractive men to not miss the opportunity to get quality genes and bond with them because they instinctively know that these kind of men have many other options. And therefore missing that kind of high value man would be huge evolutionary disadvantage for women.)
Of course women are sexual beings, of course they can crave physical relief and sexual fulfillment. Of course they can experience horniness and sexual frustration like men do.
But the point is women’s emotional needs weigh more than their physical needs and therefore they are highly willing to fulfill their emotions with sex. Whether it’s one night stand or affair or long term relationship, even women feel really horny and crave physical relief still they tend to fulfill their urges with a man who really desires them, wants them and gives them enough amount of attention.