We have talked about before how women have dual mating strategy.
Women have two fundamental needs. One is quality, healthy genes to bring healthy and strong children into the world so those children can survive and reproduce successfully.
And second, they need committed relationship and resources to take care of those children due to human babies are very hard to raise.
And women are hardwired to be attracted to those two aspects. They either desire a guy sexually for his quality genes or they are attracted to a guy emotionally because of his resources and the comfort and emotional stability that he provides.
But women can get quality genes from one guy and commitment and resources from an another guy. And they are evolved that way. Our female ancestors achieved a lot of success with this strategy.
But this strategy is not the only strategy that women have. Women or men all humans are very complex beings and they can do a lot of different things to be successful at the game of life.
And today in this article i’m going to talk about different mating strategies that women have and how do they play it.
The first mating strategy of all people have is pair bonding.
As we mentioned above and in other articles women have dual mating strategy. But it doesn’t mean that this is their priority and most important strategy.
Women actually don’t want to commit dual mating. Yes, their desire and priority is actually pair bonding. They consciously search for this.
They actually want to be with a man that has everything. Good looks, good personality, resources and status.
This is what all women dream about. Fulfilling their all needs (physical, material and emotional) with the same man. They want a handsome, masculine, high status men who will commit, stay loyal and love them genuinely.
They want a prince charming.
But this kind of men either don’t exist like unicorns or they are extremely rare. Because good looking and masculine (sexually attractive) guys tend to be unfaithful and emotionally unavailable.
And only very very few women actually lucky enough to find a dream guy like that and therefore rest of women end up committing dual mating.
When women are young and pretty they try their chances with finding a loyal handsome, attractive man. They try to get in long term relationship with that kind of man.
Some women find a dream guy like that and actually achieve this but most of them can’t therefore they try to change handsome but emotionally unavailable, player type of men to make them good loyal partners. They go one player to another one. They try to change them but at the end they get used by them constantly.
As we concluded most of those sexually attractive men know that they are very attractive, they get a lot of female attention so they try to have sex with as many women as they can.
And some women even the beautiful and young ones know that these type of attractive men are unfaithful and typically players therefore they especially search for long term relationship type of men from the beginning and they don’t even bother to change or chase highly attractive men to make them loyal partners. Because either they had bad experiences in the past or they are smart enough to know that they will get hurt at the end. (Of course this doesn’t stop these women from having short term relationships and cheating on their long term partners with sexually attractive men. Because no matter what women do or say they are hardwired to mate with sexually attractive men.)
And even though a woman has a sexually attractive, loving long term partner “dream guy” still she can commit dual mating. Still she can cheat on him. Because women are hypergamous and if relatively better, another sexually attractive man interested in them they can desire that man and have sex with him. Women always have the instinct to have backup plan. Women always want to have a lot of options. Because their man can leave or things can go wrong therefore women are always looking and open for better options. No matter how good and perfect the guy is a woman’s hypergamy will never be satisfied. He will never be enough for her especially in the age we live in. Women always want to have backup guy(s). Whether it’s for better genes or resources. They always want to have worshippers around them and tens of guys who are interested in them to make things guarantee. They always crave high amounts of attention. To make sure they will survive. Because women were completely dependent on men throughout the all history and therefore they had to develop a good strategy to make themselves survive.
That’s why women are obsessed to look pretty and they crave to be desired by men so much because they always want to have a lot of guys under their hand.
That’s why women are very social beings. They always try to build relationships with people to make themselves safe and secure. They always look for guarantee, a safety net. They always look for a lot of other options. They always look for better opportunities.
Therefore even though women have their prince charming, even they have a dream guy that has it all, still they can cheat on him with other attractive men. Still they can commit dual mating. Because women can’t resist to their own nature.
Women don’t think this consciously of course it happens subconsciously, it happens spontaneously. They don’t consciously say “today i will go out and cheat on my partner.” Instead, women can say “i would never do that”, “i love my partner so much” etc. but then end up doing it because they always follow their feelings and urges. They always act based on how they feel at that moment. And women even don’t aware of their own nature. Therefore lust has no logic. It happens naturally.
(Also for a woman, getting genes from different variety of attractive mates always more beneficial than getting from one attractive mate. Because that way she reduces her risk and maximizes the benefit. Instinctively she make sures that she will get pregnant and also have the best quality results.)
Women are always open for short term relationships with attractive males especially with the ones who are better than their current partner because they don’t want to miss their chance. Women have strong instinct to get quality genes as soon as possible. And in nature there are no second or third chances much and therefore when women interact with handsome, sexually attractive men, when those men show interest and give them attention, women feel the need to mate with them in a short time. They get aroused quickly.
Because they don’t want to miss that great chance. And that’s why women are always open for short term relationships with handsome, attractive men. Whether they are in long term relationships or they have husbands it doesn’t much matter. When they have the chance to get quality genes women will want to get it. At least the instinct will be there. It’s up to them to act on it. They may not think like this consciously but subconsciously their motivation is getting quality genes.
This is how women play their mating strategy.
They either search for a dream guy who has all or they try to change attractive but emotionally unavailable guy to make him the dream guy or they look for stable, nice guy (mostly average looking) to get in long term relationship but then secretly and instinctively seek out attention from sexually attractive men to have passionate sex on the side.
As i said women always want to have a lot of guys under their hand. They want a lot of options and then they sort those options whether they are good potential long term partners or just good for sex or both. They constantly do this and try to expand their options.
And the truth is women are not able to stay loyal.
They are always open for better deals. Better chances.
They can leave their broke but sexy lovers for a rich, stable nice guy or they can cheat on their rich husbands with a young and sexy guy.
Dual mating and hypergamy are women’s strategy. They are their core.
And they act on these constantly.