Well here we are again with a big question to answer.
Men are simple creatures and they look at very simple things to judge a woman’s sexual attractiveness and this happens fast, really fast.
When a man walks down the street he can be attracted to many women in a very short period of time.
But on the other hand women are little bit different and not so much simple.
Therefore most men wonder what do women really look for in men?
In this article i will answer that.
Often times girls can pick guys for different purposes in different times when they are in different mood.
We all know that women are hypergamous in nature. They seek high value men, they want to get the best man that they can get because that’s how women survived and reproduced successfully.
High value men impregnated a lot of women and reached resources easier than their competitors but low value men couldn’t do that easily, they’ve got dominated by other men therefore women try to separate men all the time to understand who’s who.
For women there are 3 types of men. One is sexually attractive men, these men are quality, high value men. Women respect, desire and admire these men more than any others. Second one is good men. These men are provider, loving, nice, perfect long term relationship type of men that women get emotionally attracted in many times. And last one is creepy, low value men that women don’t want to be bothered by at any times.
Women’s men preferences can vary from time to time depending on what mood they are in or how many quality choices that they have.
When it comes to long term relationship or marriage they can make different decisions and might prefer different kinds of men.
But how do women decide which men are high value and which men aren’t? And how do they choose which men are suited for long term relationship and which men are best for casual sex?
If you don’t know there are two kinds of attraction. One is sexual attraction and other one is emotional attraction. These attractions have different purposes. One is for reproduction, it’s about getting quality genes. Other one is for long term relationship, it’s about love, affection and security.
There are different types of attraction for women because in evolutionary process women had two different needs. One is getting healthy, high quality genes to reproduce and the other one is getting commitment and resources to raise their children. Lucky women found a man that has both aspects but other ones weren’t lucky like them unfortunately. So out of necessity they ended up with dual mating.
First of all when it comes to sexual attraction women look for:
Height: Okay most of you know this. They look at your height. First thing that women notice about you is your height. Women desire tall men because tall guys look more masculine, more dominant and therefore they make women feel safe and feminine. Also it’s not coincidence that tall men are much more successful in life.
Women find height extremely attractive. You can see average or below average looking guys date with pretty girls just because they have height. That’s how much women find height attractive.
Women are wired to seek taller men because they look dominant and powerful.
It’s an indication of having a high status. When people see tall men they admire them, they look them up.
Also not only women, even men respect and admire tall guys. They listen to them, they take them seriously.
Tall men look intimidating and therefore other men think carefully before challenge them.
And women know this of course therefore they find tall guys really really attractive.
Women notice tall men instantly in a crowd. Their eyes searching for them all the time.
Face: Face is also very very important. You have to have decent looking face enough to seen as a potential sexual mate by women.
If you have okay or decent looking face it’s enough for most women actually. You don’t have to look like a model or like a Hollywood actor of course. These kind of guys are very very rare in society. But if you have both good looking symmetrical face and tall height you will be seen as dreamy in women’s eyes of course there is no question about that. But as i said these kind of guys are really rare in real life.
But generally your face have to look decent enough to be seen as a potential mate and not like some creepy, weird looking dude. So face is highly important too. It indicates good health.
When it comes to face; chiseled square jawline, facial symmetry, small narrow eyes and nice hairstyle with good facial hair look highly attractive for women.
Body Frame: Women desire men who look manly. Being little bit muscular and fit is always good. You don’t have to look like pro athlete or pro fighter (overly muscular) but you have to have some kind of fitness. Fit, toned body always look attractive on men.
Women love men who have larger body frame than them. They don’t like too skinny, thin men or men who have very small body frame. They want men to look like a man.
Therefore they look at your shoulders, chest and arms. They want wide shoulders, large chest and relatively big arms. Again you don’t and shouldn’t have to look way too big but you have to look big enough to look like a man. (I think you’ve got the idea.)
Narrow shoulders, thin arms and legs and small chest aren’t attractive for women that much. These kind of men look weak and feminine therefore women don’t find them attractive generally.
Masculinity: Masculinity is crucial for a man in order to him become successful in life.
Confidence, aggressive and dominant behavior (not too much), emotional toughness, assertiveness, ambition, courage are all extremely attractive for women. Because these men survive and become successful in life. These men act manly, they act confident and courageous and they dominate their rivals.
On the other hand passive, timid, insecure, submissive, emotionally weak and lazy type of men are not sexually attractive.
Because they are even weaker than women, they have low value.
That’s why women love bad boys and don’t desire typical nice guys. Bad boys are confident, courageous and masculine but nice guys act weak, insecure and submissive.
That’s why before feeling lust women instinctively seek to get to know you to see your true personality, to see are you confident, masculine or weak and insecure.
They look at your movements, your attitude, how you talk and how you move to understand your true personality.
When a man acts confident and masculine he looks charismatic and therefore he becomes sexually attractive to women. Masculine attitude is one of the most sexiest traits a man can have.
Life is hard and tough and in order to achieve success and reach resources you need to take risk, be assertive, confident and take action to get what you want. Because these kind of men succeed in life.
Weak, timid or passive type of guys aren’t like this, they act cowardly and they are submissive and therefore women don’t find them sexually attractive much.
You don’t and shouldn’t have to be super aggressive or jerk type of men or overly masculine but you have to have enough confidence and masculinity. Otherwise you wouldn’t seen as attractive as you wish by many women.
Even sometimes if a man is tall and decent looking but if he acts way too insecure, timid, passive or awkward then women may not desire him after they figure out that he is not confident and masculine enough. That’s how much masculinity is important for women.
Although if you have a really good looking face and tall height with a decent body then having minimum amount of confidence and masculine behavior will be highly enough for women because good looks trumps any other traits every single time especially when it comes to sexual attraction due to halo effect.
Status: Status also is attractive. Women love men who have high status. That’s why they desire famous people like rock stars. Also that’s why they desire rich men because rich men have high status. Money can bring you status and power. But remember just money and fame alone won’t make you sexually attractive. You have to have enough looks and masculinity to make your status or money work for you.
Also women love having a good social skills because having good social skills and a lot of social networks also mean having a high status.
Asocial people can’t survive easily in this world because we are social animals. Those people get left behind. That’s why women like someone who has good social skills.
Intelligence: I don’t even need to explain this i guess. Who doesn’t love smart people? Smart people always achieve more in this world. Also that’s why women love funny guys because humor indicates intelligence and confidence which women find highly sexy.
For the long term relationship or partnership women look for:
Money and Resources: When it comes to long term relationship or partnership nothing is more attractive than money. Women want someone who has a lot of money because also it means that guy will be good provider and he will provide safety, decent lifestyle and security for them and their children.
Like Minded: Women connect emotionally with men who have similar interests, think and feel the same way with them. They love someone like that because when they are connected emotionally with a man then that man can be a good partner and understand them really well.
Caring, Loyal Personality: When it comes to long term relationship or partnership women look for more of a caring, loyal, loving personality than confident, assertive masculine one. Because they want someone who will stick around and be good provider for them and help them to raise their children. Because highly masculine men aka “bad boys” no matter how sexy they are they tend to be more unfaithful and unreliable.
Here you have it.
Note that women’s menstrual cycle might influence their mating decision. When women are ovulating they tend to prefer more masculine, good looking men to mate with. (Especially if they are not already in a relationship with that kind of man.) But in other days they tend to seek average looking and little bit more loyal, nicer, provider type of men to have relationship. And they look for having an emotional connection.
Now having said that, women actually don’t go all the way for one or another in many times. They actually look for someone who has both aspects. Someone who is decent looking, masculine but also little bit nicer, loyal and like minded. (They even try to change bad boys to make them good long term partners.)
This is what all women dream and want. Fulfilling their emotional and physical needs with the same man.
But how many of them can actually achieve this? This is the question to think about…