Do Women Really Need Emotional Connection to Have Sex?

Short answer is, no they actually don’t. It’s one of the myths that women seek or need emotional connection to have sex with a guy.

Yes there are some women out there that only can have sex when they really know and like a person but also there are people out there also have no interest with having sex.

So most women they don’t need much emotional connection to have sex with a guy.

Women judge a man’s sexual attractiveness mostly based on his looks and masculine attitude and maybe little bit based on his status.

If you are a tall, fit, good looking, confident guy women don’t need to have an emotional connection with you that much in order to have sex. They don’t need to know what is your favourite movie or what do you like or dislike etc. They can just look at your attitude little bit to make sure you are a confident, masculine guy. But after then they can feel lust towards you and have sex with you easily in a short time. (They might want to get to know you little bit not to build emotional connection but to make sure you are good person and not some kind of serial killer. Also sometimes women play games and try to slow things down not because they seek emotional connection but because they afraid of judgement and don’t want to look easy or slutty and cheap.)

Because a lot of women have sex without even building emotional connection when they go to parties and night clubs. They already do that with the strangers that they barely know.

They decide mostly based on sexual attraction not emotional attraction.

Women want to build emotional connection when they seek long term relationship, when they seek commitment and love because they want men to commit them and stick around.

Because if you have a deep emotional connection with someone then you will have a strong relationship with him or her. You will love and care about them, understand them and won’t leave them easily.

But when it comes to sex and specially lust they don’t need that much emotional connection, they just want you to look good, have enough amount of confidence and show them you really desire them.

When women feel really horny they become much more open to a short term relationship with a good looking, masculine guy. (Especially if they are not already in a relationship with a guy like that.)

And that time they don’t seek emotional connection. They don’t seek common interests. They don’t seek someone who will love and care about them.

What makes a woman feel lust and love towards you are totally different things.

Women sexually desire a man if that man physically good and masculine.

It’s both visual and mental process as a whole. It’s about how a man looks and how he behaves at the same time.

Women love and feel emotional attraction when a guy shares same values and interests with them, care about them and love them but even at that point they may not feel lust or primal sexual urge for him even they love the guy.

You have to know that women are different than men. They can feel emotional connection and love one guy while they feel strong lust and sexual desire to another guy.

Evolution made them this way. Women need someone to take care of them and their children, someone who will stick around for a long time and make them feel secure.

Also they need someone that has high quality, healthy genes for reproduction. Of course women prefer a guy that has both aspects (sexual attractiveness and emotional connection) but because most women can’t find someone that has both so they evolved to separate love and emotional connection from sex.

Therefore women don’t need emotional connection to have sex.

Most online dating coaches especially female ones they give advice men to build emotional connection, they might say women desire a man when a man builds emotional connection with them.

But this advice is wrong because most female dating coaches give this advice from their point of view, they want men to commit them on the long run. But women can be attracted to a man emotionally without feeling much lust.

Women can know a man even for couple minutes and still they can desire and feel lust for him and have sex with him. Because that happens more than you think.

Think about it, if a man is really sexually attractive women wouldn’t want to make him wait days or weeks because they know that guy most likely has many other options. So they would have urge to mate with him quickly to not miss this opportunity. They would adore him, try to please him and do anything for him. Even they can fly across the country to meet with him.

But they can make an average looking nice guy to wait and go through a lot of processes and try to build emotional connection, seek commitment or love and then give him non passionate, duty sex to make him stay.

Because lust and love are not the same things. They are totally different.

So if a man looks good and has enough amount of confidence and masculinity then he can make a lot of women desire him sexually in a short period of time.

This can happen when you meet with a woman in the first 10 to 20 minutes but not like spending days or going on countless dates.

If you spend minimum one or two hours with a woman and still she doesn’t feel much sexual attraction towards you then most likely she never will even after the 5th or 10th date.

Because she will learn enough about you, she will understand the amount of confidence you have, she will see how you behave and how you look generally.

So don’t confuse emotional connection with sexual connection.

Sometimes if a man looks really handsome like tall, fit, really good looking like a male model then women don’t even need to know his masculinity that much or how much confidence or status he has.

Because halo effect will make him much sexier in women’s eyes so they may feel instant sexual attraction like men feel every single day when walking down the streets.

That kind of guy can only kill the sexual attraction if somehow he’s really insecure, timid or extremely shy and asocial or if he’s gay or asexual.

But if he has little bit confidence and social skills then he will be sexier than a decent looking guy who has great amount of confidence and masculinity.

So when it comes to sexual attraction women care about your looks and masculine attitude but not your lovely nice, caring personality or having similar interests or connecting emotionally.

Well having said that, don’t think that many women look for a lot of hook up with a lot of attractive men like men seek most of the time.

Actually many times most women look for relationship, they look for having an emotional connection with a sexually attractive guy rather than having a lot of casual sex.

Because many of them want to fulfill their emotional and sexual needs with same man at the same time.

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